There are many things I've been tempted to blog about, but just haven't gotten that real drive to write about. That's the only way I write blogs...a sudden burst of energy, a thought that won't leave my head, and (miraculously)uninterrupted time to write.
Luke.
Lukie.
My baby.
He's who is on my mind this morning, and many, many mornings, afternoons and evenings.
He's been on my mind ever since we found out that we were having a boy.
He's not just your average boy.
He's the brother of two other boys with autism. So his chances of developing autism are 1 in 3.
We have officially entered the danger zone. 18 months is where it will really hit, but we're watching already. There are many, many things that Lukie can do that Jeffrey could not by this age. Physically, Lukie is right on track.
We think he's naming objects. We think. We think he calls a bottle "ba-ba." We think he has called a ball "ba." We think he has called a car "ka." We calls Chris da-da (although da-da is also the sound he repeats most often).
Here's where I'm nervous: He still doesn't point. He doesn't really wave goodbye. And those are the things that my boys just did not do until well after being diagnosed. The other things they could do more or less and then either lost them, or struggled with them at around 18 months. But especially the pointing...they just never did that. They had no concept of me being unable to see exactly what they were looking at. They were already in their world of autism.
I understand that you might be thinking "So he doesn't point or wave yet...he'll get there!" I think if this were my first baby, or even first son that would reassure me. But as I'm sure any mother of a special needs child (or children) will tell you, milestones are not sure with us, no matter what it is. We celebrate when they achieve them for sure. But we can't emotionally invest in a future that might not be. We help them struggle through the steps they're currently on. And Luke is not special needs as far as we know...but it's been a LOOONG time since I watched a neurotypical child develop. And she was ahead of everything (which of course I took credit for--ha!).
If you know me at all, you will know that there are fewer things I get more joy from than my boys. They have taught me so much, are such beautiful human beings, and have a purity of soul that is rare. I LOVE my boys. But I also hurt for my boys when I see them being excluded, or know that they want to be included and just don't know how to get there. They can be in the midst of a room of people who love them and still be completely alone. There are many, many things in this world that are worse than autism. But it's the pain I know that I fear happening again to another of my beautiful sons.
So here's my prayer...that fear of the future will not keep me from experiencing the joys of the present. That regardless of a diagnosis (or not) I will praise God for the beautiful creation He has entrusted in my care. And that Lukie will become exactly who God intended him to be, as God's plans for us are always, always better than any we can come up with.
Saturday, December 29, 2012
Saturday, October 6, 2012
All things new
This isn't my usual sort of blog, or at least in my head it isn't as I start to write it. So my apologies if it disappoints and my gratitude if you like it more. :)
Things we do now that we did not do before coming to Texas:
1) We attend a support group for Parents of Children with Autism. We have never been in any type of a support group before, although we've been asked about participating in them (particularly as they relate to autism) many, many times. Both Chris and I were hesitant at first. As Chris put it, "I'm okay with the fact that our sons have autism. I don't really need support."
However, upon going we have found it to be good in two ways. First, it helps us to talk with a group of parents who "get" what we have gone through and can advise as to what we probably will go through. When I talk about Andrew running, or difficulties in getting services, or Jeffrey doing his "tica,tica,tica" thing, I see fervent head nodding and know that they know exactly what I'm talking about. For our small group, these behaviors are our new normal.
Secondly, it provides Chris and I a chance to minister. There are parents still going through the trauma of finding out that their child has autism, and who are wondering what they did to cause it. We've been there, and are able to offer encouragement and comfort. It's an extension of the work of the church, and we're so grateful for the opportunity to be that extension.
2) We live in a single-wide. For some Americans, this means absolutely nothing. For us, it felt, well, a little sad. We've owned three homes. There is a huge stigma placed on living in single-wides and double-wides (at least in the communities I've lived it), and I felt the full force of it as we were moving in. But with our limited budget, this was pretty much the best we could afford. And what I've found is that the families living here are hardworking, polite, and helpful. God has once again proved that his provision is exactly what we NEED, and anything that I think I know can be contradicted by what HE knows.
3)I use ma'am, sir, and y'all many, many times throughout the day, and have people say the same to me. I can't even explain that one...especially on y'all. It just WORKS here, and the ma'am and sir thing just elevates the overall feeling of respect that people display here.
4) I understand all the hype about why being a Texan is awesome. It is a different world down here. With the exception of the very first rental car agent we met when we were first visiting back in March, the people here are wonderful, and the children are incredibly respectful. The food is DELICIOUS and plentiful, and customer service is always polite and helpful. And for our family, there is help for our boys, and an ever increasing amount of awareness and urgency to help others. God bless Texas.
"Texas has been a second chance for me. I expect that might be true for many of you as well. It has been a chance not only for land and riches, but also to be a different man. I hope a better one. There have been many ideas brought for in the past few months of what Texas is, and what it should become. We are not all in agreement. But I'd like to ask each of you what it is you value so highly that you are willing to fight and possibly die for. We will call that Texas.
-William Travis, The Alamo
Things we do now that we did not do before coming to Texas:
1) We attend a support group for Parents of Children with Autism. We have never been in any type of a support group before, although we've been asked about participating in them (particularly as they relate to autism) many, many times. Both Chris and I were hesitant at first. As Chris put it, "I'm okay with the fact that our sons have autism. I don't really need support."
However, upon going we have found it to be good in two ways. First, it helps us to talk with a group of parents who "get" what we have gone through and can advise as to what we probably will go through. When I talk about Andrew running, or difficulties in getting services, or Jeffrey doing his "tica,tica,tica" thing, I see fervent head nodding and know that they know exactly what I'm talking about. For our small group, these behaviors are our new normal.
Secondly, it provides Chris and I a chance to minister. There are parents still going through the trauma of finding out that their child has autism, and who are wondering what they did to cause it. We've been there, and are able to offer encouragement and comfort. It's an extension of the work of the church, and we're so grateful for the opportunity to be that extension.
2) We live in a single-wide. For some Americans, this means absolutely nothing. For us, it felt, well, a little sad. We've owned three homes. There is a huge stigma placed on living in single-wides and double-wides (at least in the communities I've lived it), and I felt the full force of it as we were moving in. But with our limited budget, this was pretty much the best we could afford. And what I've found is that the families living here are hardworking, polite, and helpful. God has once again proved that his provision is exactly what we NEED, and anything that I think I know can be contradicted by what HE knows.
3)I use ma'am, sir, and y'all many, many times throughout the day, and have people say the same to me. I can't even explain that one...especially on y'all. It just WORKS here, and the ma'am and sir thing just elevates the overall feeling of respect that people display here.
4) I understand all the hype about why being a Texan is awesome. It is a different world down here. With the exception of the very first rental car agent we met when we were first visiting back in March, the people here are wonderful, and the children are incredibly respectful. The food is DELICIOUS and plentiful, and customer service is always polite and helpful. And for our family, there is help for our boys, and an ever increasing amount of awareness and urgency to help others. God bless Texas.
"Texas has been a second chance for me. I expect that might be true for many of you as well. It has been a chance not only for land and riches, but also to be a different man. I hope a better one. There have been many ideas brought for in the past few months of what Texas is, and what it should become. We are not all in agreement. But I'd like to ask each of you what it is you value so highly that you are willing to fight and possibly die for. We will call that Texas.
-William Travis, The Alamo
Sunday, September 23, 2012
Figuring Things Out
Fall is here, and apparently it's been almost a month since I last updated my blog. You may be wondering why I would update it so early on a Sunday morning, as I would, and the truth of the matter is that with my boys and I needing to leave the house at 6:15 every morning to make it to work in San Antonio on time, sleeping in on Sundays, all of our sleep schedules are off enough to think that 7:00 is actually sleeping in.
Life has been...full? Confusing? Wonderful? A mixture of all three?
Andrew started his school (the one we specifically moved down here for) the day after Labor Day. So far, he seems to be doing wonderfully well. We get a very thorough, written update every single day about he did with his school work, what he ate, when he went to the bathroom (yes, still important that we know that), what therapies he had, what specials classes he had, and his overall social interaction. I posted on Facebook that Andrew has friends. This is amazing if you look at some of my earlier blog posts. I NEVER thought he would have real friends. And not only does he have them, but he can name them, and gets great joy out of being able to do so. So obviously we're so, so glad that we came down here.
Jeffrey has also been doing extremely well in school. His Special Education teacher makes sure to send me pictures and videos via text when he does an especially fun group activity, which I fully appreciate. I really feel like I actually know what both of my boys are doing at school, which if you think about it is not a normal thing...Neither of my boys are able to communicate past information very well, so asking what they did at school usually elicits a completely non-related answer. I'm grateful for the detailed updates.
Kadee Joy is doing well at school, and was just tested for the Gifted and Talented program. She has made friends as well...
But they all seem to be boys. Who come over to our house to play. And if you think this doesn't freak me out, you would be mistaken. I don't remember even talking to boys at her age, much less thinking it was a good idea for them to come over and play. Please pray for us. :)
Lukie is doing well, but of course I am already worried that he has autism. He's delayed on a number of his milestones, although he still is very smiley and has great eye contact. I'll admit that I've delayed vaccinating him just to see if it makes a difference...I know, I know, there's no scientific evidence linking vaccination to autism...you have two sons with autism and the third with a one in three chance and tell me you wouldn't at least think about it. :) He is a champ at eating solid foods, and has yet to actually spit anything out that he doesn't like. Except for formula, that is. Although he's pretty well given up spitting up that as well, which our washing machine is grateful for.
My job is going very well. It is a COMPLETELY different experience than any other I've had. I just wish that legislators and those in education knew, REALLY KNEW just how NOT level the playing fields are in each district. My school has a huge amount of parent support, a thriving PTO, wonderful caferia food (yes, this matters), small class sizes, an amazing amount of support staff....and it shows. And those things are simply not there in my other school district, and NOT because the teachers and administration there wouldn't love all of those things. The funding simply is not there and you can't force parents to be supportive. That's all I'll say about that for fear of getting myself into trouble. :)
And then there's my Chris. We've had a pretty up and down couple of weeks. The job we had been fairly confident he would be able to get never materialized, so we're back to square one.
My job pays pretty well, but doesn't quite cover all of our medical bills and student loans (not to mention that we didn't quite realize that you can't keep your house at 72 and not go broke when the utility bill showed up), and since a youth pastor job is nowhere on the horizon, he has jumped into a mad search for another job. We're praying that he will be able to find a job that fits his giftings well, and that it will be enough to cover the gap from what we made in Idaho to what I am making here. I want very badly for my husband to be happy in his job. Please pray with us that the right job will be available and that Chris will be able to find it.
I was thinking yesterday morning about when we had first begun to tell people that God wanted us to move to Texas. I remember that even though I was SURE that God had told me to do it, I really wasn't sure that we would actually go. So as I was reminiscing, it hit me that we were HERE. That the impossible had been made possible, and that had actually brought us here. I am grateful, if a little overwhelmed, and keep lifting my family and myself up to Him for his will to be done, even when it seems impossible.
Life has been...full? Confusing? Wonderful? A mixture of all three?
Andrew started his school (the one we specifically moved down here for) the day after Labor Day. So far, he seems to be doing wonderfully well. We get a very thorough, written update every single day about he did with his school work, what he ate, when he went to the bathroom (yes, still important that we know that), what therapies he had, what specials classes he had, and his overall social interaction. I posted on Facebook that Andrew has friends. This is amazing if you look at some of my earlier blog posts. I NEVER thought he would have real friends. And not only does he have them, but he can name them, and gets great joy out of being able to do so. So obviously we're so, so glad that we came down here.
Jeffrey has also been doing extremely well in school. His Special Education teacher makes sure to send me pictures and videos via text when he does an especially fun group activity, which I fully appreciate. I really feel like I actually know what both of my boys are doing at school, which if you think about it is not a normal thing...Neither of my boys are able to communicate past information very well, so asking what they did at school usually elicits a completely non-related answer. I'm grateful for the detailed updates.
Kadee Joy is doing well at school, and was just tested for the Gifted and Talented program. She has made friends as well...
But they all seem to be boys. Who come over to our house to play. And if you think this doesn't freak me out, you would be mistaken. I don't remember even talking to boys at her age, much less thinking it was a good idea for them to come over and play. Please pray for us. :)
Lukie is doing well, but of course I am already worried that he has autism. He's delayed on a number of his milestones, although he still is very smiley and has great eye contact. I'll admit that I've delayed vaccinating him just to see if it makes a difference...I know, I know, there's no scientific evidence linking vaccination to autism...you have two sons with autism and the third with a one in three chance and tell me you wouldn't at least think about it. :) He is a champ at eating solid foods, and has yet to actually spit anything out that he doesn't like. Except for formula, that is. Although he's pretty well given up spitting up that as well, which our washing machine is grateful for.
My job is going very well. It is a COMPLETELY different experience than any other I've had. I just wish that legislators and those in education knew, REALLY KNEW just how NOT level the playing fields are in each district. My school has a huge amount of parent support, a thriving PTO, wonderful caferia food (yes, this matters), small class sizes, an amazing amount of support staff....and it shows. And those things are simply not there in my other school district, and NOT because the teachers and administration there wouldn't love all of those things. The funding simply is not there and you can't force parents to be supportive. That's all I'll say about that for fear of getting myself into trouble. :)
And then there's my Chris. We've had a pretty up and down couple of weeks. The job we had been fairly confident he would be able to get never materialized, so we're back to square one.
My job pays pretty well, but doesn't quite cover all of our medical bills and student loans (not to mention that we didn't quite realize that you can't keep your house at 72 and not go broke when the utility bill showed up), and since a youth pastor job is nowhere on the horizon, he has jumped into a mad search for another job. We're praying that he will be able to find a job that fits his giftings well, and that it will be enough to cover the gap from what we made in Idaho to what I am making here. I want very badly for my husband to be happy in his job. Please pray with us that the right job will be available and that Chris will be able to find it.
I was thinking yesterday morning about when we had first begun to tell people that God wanted us to move to Texas. I remember that even though I was SURE that God had told me to do it, I really wasn't sure that we would actually go. So as I was reminiscing, it hit me that we were HERE. That the impossible had been made possible, and that had actually brought us here. I am grateful, if a little overwhelmed, and keep lifting my family and myself up to Him for his will to be done, even when it seems impossible.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
What?!?!
On Friday morning (as in YESTERDAY), after all of the kids had been enrolled in public school, we received a phone call from One for Autism. One for Autism is the private school for children with autism. I say "the" because it's the one that God specifically called us to move down to San Antonio, Texas from Nampa, Idaho for.
One morning several weeks ago, even though we had no financial means (that we knew of) to accomplish it, I applied for Andrew to go the school. I didn't apply for Jeffrey...and all that I can say is I honestly didn't feel that I was supposed to at the time.
We had no word for quite a while, and then at the beginning of last week we received a call saying that he was second on the waiting list to get in, and they would have their final numbers soon to tell us whether or not he got in. They anticipated telling us this week.
It was at that point that I fully registered both boys into my school district. It seemed as though he probably would not have even the chance to go there this year. I have spent HOURS figuring out how transportation was going to work for the boys, how I would juggle all my school duties and still get them to and from on time, etc. We met their teachers, all of whom we REALLY liked. We had transfer ARD (IEP) meetings, and finally I (with the help of many people in my district) had all the transportation details figured out, and all of their learning goals and accommodations were set. We still hadn't heard anything, and it was the last day of the week...I figured this year it just wouldn't happen.
And then came yesterday morning. The phone call from One for Autism went to Chris, and he was told that there was now a spot for Andrew and that he could start this next Monday.
Now all of you reading may be thinking that I would have received this news with great joy, but instead it came with...PANIC!!! How in the world were we going to pay the $1400 per month tuition? I really LIKED his new teachers at my school...I wanted him to go to my school! I'd had it all figured out!
Luckily, God is a God of grace, and settled me down after an hour or two. I got a hold of the director at the school, who was very gracious and walked me through the process of how to determine how much my insurance would cover, since so much of the school was therapy based and administered by board certified professionals in their field of therapy.
So I called. And the answer that I got was confusing. And so I called her back with the answer. She tried to walk me through the math of it. My math came out that we would still need a little over $1000 per month. But she knew insurance talk better and told me $420 per month. I got off the phone still confused, and called my husband for the eighteenth time that day and asked him to call her again to see if he could make sense of the math.
So he did, and yes, it turns out she was right. We will have to come up with $420 per month. And that's it. Of course, I say that's it, but the part of my brain that deals with tangible still balks at the amount. Our finances are stretched REALLY thin right now, and Chris still doesn't have a job. But boy, does $420 seem attainable compared to what we originally thought it would be!
One difficulty that arose was that if Andrew started on Monday, we would still be under our Idaho insurance. I called our Idaho insurance company to see what they would cover (even though we're out of state we still have Blue providers). And it turns out that no matter WHERE we are, our insurance wouldn't cover any of it. Not a bit. My new insurance goes into effect on September 1.
So, Chris called the director back and asked if there was any way we could hold off a week and have Andrew start after Labor Day. And she said yes!
Andrew will be starting the school on the Tuesday after Labor Day. He got in. He can do it. He can go to the place God moved us down here for.
There are still some details to work out. I need to be able to get him there at 8:15, even though I have to be at my school at 7:30. And of course, there is still the $420 per month.
But Andrew can GO. He can be at a school where he will receive ABA therapy, speech therapy, music therapy, occupational therapy daily...but that will be able to give him the one-on-one educational focus that he needs. We serve an awesome God who has better plans than we do, and will equip those He calls.
One morning several weeks ago, even though we had no financial means (that we knew of) to accomplish it, I applied for Andrew to go the school. I didn't apply for Jeffrey...and all that I can say is I honestly didn't feel that I was supposed to at the time.
We had no word for quite a while, and then at the beginning of last week we received a call saying that he was second on the waiting list to get in, and they would have their final numbers soon to tell us whether or not he got in. They anticipated telling us this week.
It was at that point that I fully registered both boys into my school district. It seemed as though he probably would not have even the chance to go there this year. I have spent HOURS figuring out how transportation was going to work for the boys, how I would juggle all my school duties and still get them to and from on time, etc. We met their teachers, all of whom we REALLY liked. We had transfer ARD (IEP) meetings, and finally I (with the help of many people in my district) had all the transportation details figured out, and all of their learning goals and accommodations were set. We still hadn't heard anything, and it was the last day of the week...I figured this year it just wouldn't happen.
And then came yesterday morning. The phone call from One for Autism went to Chris, and he was told that there was now a spot for Andrew and that he could start this next Monday.
Now all of you reading may be thinking that I would have received this news with great joy, but instead it came with...PANIC!!! How in the world were we going to pay the $1400 per month tuition? I really LIKED his new teachers at my school...I wanted him to go to my school! I'd had it all figured out!
Luckily, God is a God of grace, and settled me down after an hour or two. I got a hold of the director at the school, who was very gracious and walked me through the process of how to determine how much my insurance would cover, since so much of the school was therapy based and administered by board certified professionals in their field of therapy.
So I called. And the answer that I got was confusing. And so I called her back with the answer. She tried to walk me through the math of it. My math came out that we would still need a little over $1000 per month. But she knew insurance talk better and told me $420 per month. I got off the phone still confused, and called my husband for the eighteenth time that day and asked him to call her again to see if he could make sense of the math.
So he did, and yes, it turns out she was right. We will have to come up with $420 per month. And that's it. Of course, I say that's it, but the part of my brain that deals with tangible still balks at the amount. Our finances are stretched REALLY thin right now, and Chris still doesn't have a job. But boy, does $420 seem attainable compared to what we originally thought it would be!
One difficulty that arose was that if Andrew started on Monday, we would still be under our Idaho insurance. I called our Idaho insurance company to see what they would cover (even though we're out of state we still have Blue providers). And it turns out that no matter WHERE we are, our insurance wouldn't cover any of it. Not a bit. My new insurance goes into effect on September 1.
So, Chris called the director back and asked if there was any way we could hold off a week and have Andrew start after Labor Day. And she said yes!
Andrew will be starting the school on the Tuesday after Labor Day. He got in. He can do it. He can go to the place God moved us down here for.
There are still some details to work out. I need to be able to get him there at 8:15, even though I have to be at my school at 7:30. And of course, there is still the $420 per month.
But Andrew can GO. He can be at a school where he will receive ABA therapy, speech therapy, music therapy, occupational therapy daily...but that will be able to give him the one-on-one educational focus that he needs. We serve an awesome God who has better plans than we do, and will equip those He calls.
Monday, July 30, 2012
Andrew
Andrew is having a hard time.
Change is hard, and everyone reacts to it differently.
Kadee Joy has her ups and her downs, especially as related to friends. She is still in need of some playmates, and is really feeling the differences between her and her brothers. But she does fine once she's at church, and loves being with her cousins. I think that once school gets started she'll really start to thrive.
Jeffrey is doing remarkably well. He actually seems to be doing better here than he was in Idaho, and I really have no idea why. But then again, he is the happiest in his own little world and has no need for friends (or at least shows no need). He has Andrew, and he seems content with that.
Lukie is doing well. We've moved him into the boys' room, which is especially helpful at night, but poses a bit of a problem during the day when Andrew gets so lonely that he goes in and wakes Luke up.
And then there's Andrew.
He has about 3 major meltdowns a day. He had a HUGE one yesterday at church. It started as soon as we got there when he was supposed to go in his new, age appropriate class. He wanted to go the class that he's been going to...the toddler class. I was grateful that the children's director saw that he needed to be with his peers. The toddler class is basically just for playing and watching Veggie Tales, which I know Andrew would be happier doing. But I want so badly for him to learn how to interact with his peers, and to learn what they are learning. So when we took him to his new class, he refused to go in. He crossed his arms and stood facing the wall next to the door. It took a good ten minutes to get him to go in without dragging him. My fear is that he is starting to realize just how different he is from his peers, and just doesn't know how to interact with them and gets scared.
My poor boy. I want so much for him, and am constantly trying to find the line between making necessary adjustments and necessarily introducing him to activites he isn't comfortable with.
I sent in the application for him to attend the private school God called us down here because I felt led to do it, but I still have NO idea how we are going to pay for it. As of right now, Chris has no job. The private school teaching job fell through, and he is once again praying and trying to discern what he should do next. I see no EARTHLY way of getting Andrew into the school that I know he so desperately needs. Lord provide, please! A way, the funds, a person...I know He has a plan, but I'm feeling a little short of faith today.
With that being said, we had a wonderfully spontaneous trip down to Corpus Christi and Padre Island, right on the Gulf of Mexico. We played on the beach, and got in the water, and Jeffrey especially LOVED playing in the waves. At one point I was able to go out quite a ways by myself. The sun was warm, as was the water (which is always a pleasant surprise to this Oregon-coast bred girl), and I felt very thankful in the knowledge that I was EXACTLY where God had called me to come, and that He had mercifully brought our family here.
I will call upon that memory to remind me now that God called us here for a specific purpose, and that this purpose is backed up with His plan, and He WILL provide for our needs, especially this one that is so dear to my heart.
Lord, thank you for bringing us here. I trust You. Amen.
Change is hard, and everyone reacts to it differently.
Kadee Joy has her ups and her downs, especially as related to friends. She is still in need of some playmates, and is really feeling the differences between her and her brothers. But she does fine once she's at church, and loves being with her cousins. I think that once school gets started she'll really start to thrive.
Jeffrey is doing remarkably well. He actually seems to be doing better here than he was in Idaho, and I really have no idea why. But then again, he is the happiest in his own little world and has no need for friends (or at least shows no need). He has Andrew, and he seems content with that.
Lukie is doing well. We've moved him into the boys' room, which is especially helpful at night, but poses a bit of a problem during the day when Andrew gets so lonely that he goes in and wakes Luke up.
And then there's Andrew.
He has about 3 major meltdowns a day. He had a HUGE one yesterday at church. It started as soon as we got there when he was supposed to go in his new, age appropriate class. He wanted to go the class that he's been going to...the toddler class. I was grateful that the children's director saw that he needed to be with his peers. The toddler class is basically just for playing and watching Veggie Tales, which I know Andrew would be happier doing. But I want so badly for him to learn how to interact with his peers, and to learn what they are learning. So when we took him to his new class, he refused to go in. He crossed his arms and stood facing the wall next to the door. It took a good ten minutes to get him to go in without dragging him. My fear is that he is starting to realize just how different he is from his peers, and just doesn't know how to interact with them and gets scared.
My poor boy. I want so much for him, and am constantly trying to find the line between making necessary adjustments and necessarily introducing him to activites he isn't comfortable with.
I sent in the application for him to attend the private school God called us down here because I felt led to do it, but I still have NO idea how we are going to pay for it. As of right now, Chris has no job. The private school teaching job fell through, and he is once again praying and trying to discern what he should do next. I see no EARTHLY way of getting Andrew into the school that I know he so desperately needs. Lord provide, please! A way, the funds, a person...I know He has a plan, but I'm feeling a little short of faith today.
With that being said, we had a wonderfully spontaneous trip down to Corpus Christi and Padre Island, right on the Gulf of Mexico. We played on the beach, and got in the water, and Jeffrey especially LOVED playing in the waves. At one point I was able to go out quite a ways by myself. The sun was warm, as was the water (which is always a pleasant surprise to this Oregon-coast bred girl), and I felt very thankful in the knowledge that I was EXACTLY where God had called me to come, and that He had mercifully brought our family here.
I will call upon that memory to remind me now that God called us here for a specific purpose, and that this purpose is backed up with His plan, and He WILL provide for our needs, especially this one that is so dear to my heart.
Lord, thank you for bringing us here. I trust You. Amen.
Monday, July 9, 2012
Ignorance
No, this isn't a post about how someone insulted my family based on being uneducated about autism, northerners, etc. :)
Tomorrow I sign my contract for the Alamo Heights school district. I'm pretty excited about it. The first question I get asked upon meeting new people is "Where are y'all from?" My answer of course is Idaho, which immediately brings about shocked looks, considering the distance. "What brought y'all down here, then?" I tell them about our boys, about the school, which they seem to understand immediately. Then the next question is, "So, do y'all have jobs yet?" When I answer that I got a music teaching job in the Alamo Heights district, the reactions are pretty interesting. Apparently it is one of the preeminent school districts, not only in San Antonio, but also in the state of Texas. People are shocked that I, an Idahoan, got it when so many teachers in the area have been trying to teach in the district for years. "You must be pretty good!" Doubtful, I say...God is just pretty big. :)
I don't really know too much about my job yet. I do know that I am replacing a music teacher who has been there for FORTY YEARS. Talk about filling big shoes. This school of about 800 kids has two full time music teachers. The other one is also brand new to the position this year, so in a way that helps because I know we're both starting on equal footing. This district is unique. My school will have two full time music teachers, two full time art teachers, two full time PE teachers (the state of Texas requires an hour of PE EVERY DAY), and two full time PE assistants. Specialists are considered essential parts of academics...not enhancements, additions, etc. It is thrilling to be part of district that feels that way. Rumor has it that the school has an indoor swimming pool for PE and I KNOW that it has an auditorium for performances.
But again, I don't really know that much about my job. And I won't know for a while. My principal is on vacation until the end of July, my school is under major construction until who knows when, so in the meantime I have no way to prepare for the upcoming job...which will be the first time in many years that I don't have to think about my job during the summer.
The days so far have been spent unpacking, cleaning, cleaning more (four kids can make an awfully big mess during a very short time), and eating an inordinant amount of wonderful food. And most of the time I'm enjoying it. Every once in a while, like last night, the pangs of knowing few people will hit, and I will greatly miss our life in Idaho. Facebook is a great way to stay connected, but also a reminder of the friends that I miss so much.
Church has been very helpful. We are attending a Nazarene church in our town, and really like it. They are trying to meet the challenges that our boys represent in Sunday School...I'm hoping that a more comprehensive meeting will be able to happen once we've been there awhile so that the boys don't end up relegated to the preschool room the whole time. But the church has been extremely welcoming.
If you think of it, and would like to pray specifically for our family, here are some current requests:
1) Financial provision for our boys to be able to attend the school God called us down here for.
2) FRIENDS. Kadee Joy especially is feeling the lack of friends around here. She's becoming pretty persistent with a neighbor girl she met next door, to the point where I think they might be pretending not to be home. :) She's just like her daddy in the need for social interaction. Chris and I would also like some good friends to hang out with, but Kadee Joy is first on the list right now.
3) The sale of our house and car. It is INCREDIBLE to me that we have an offer on our house, and so far it is going smoothly. I thank God for this possibility of sold house, and continue to pray that it will be a blessing to the people buying it. We also have a car still up in Nampa trying to be sold by our friend Jeff. It hasn't been a problem to have one vehicle so far, but once the school year starts up, we'll definitely need two.
4) A job/direction for Chris. He has been praying so much for God's leading in knowing what to do. He applied and interviewed a month ago at a private Christian school here in town, but still has yet to hear back about whether or not he got the job. It's wonderful to see his trusting in God, and praying so often for discernment and direction.
We have so many things to be thankful for.
WE ARE HERE. We started the process in January, and I had NO idea how we would get here. It seemed impossible. I didn't know how we would get jobs, afford to get down here, how we would get our house ready to sell, etc. God has orchestrated everything. Praise be to Him, and Him alone. There is NOTHING God will call us to that He will not aid us in.
Tomorrow I sign my contract for the Alamo Heights school district. I'm pretty excited about it. The first question I get asked upon meeting new people is "Where are y'all from?" My answer of course is Idaho, which immediately brings about shocked looks, considering the distance. "What brought y'all down here, then?" I tell them about our boys, about the school, which they seem to understand immediately. Then the next question is, "So, do y'all have jobs yet?" When I answer that I got a music teaching job in the Alamo Heights district, the reactions are pretty interesting. Apparently it is one of the preeminent school districts, not only in San Antonio, but also in the state of Texas. People are shocked that I, an Idahoan, got it when so many teachers in the area have been trying to teach in the district for years. "You must be pretty good!" Doubtful, I say...God is just pretty big. :)
I don't really know too much about my job yet. I do know that I am replacing a music teacher who has been there for FORTY YEARS. Talk about filling big shoes. This school of about 800 kids has two full time music teachers. The other one is also brand new to the position this year, so in a way that helps because I know we're both starting on equal footing. This district is unique. My school will have two full time music teachers, two full time art teachers, two full time PE teachers (the state of Texas requires an hour of PE EVERY DAY), and two full time PE assistants. Specialists are considered essential parts of academics...not enhancements, additions, etc. It is thrilling to be part of district that feels that way. Rumor has it that the school has an indoor swimming pool for PE and I KNOW that it has an auditorium for performances.
But again, I don't really know that much about my job. And I won't know for a while. My principal is on vacation until the end of July, my school is under major construction until who knows when, so in the meantime I have no way to prepare for the upcoming job...which will be the first time in many years that I don't have to think about my job during the summer.
The days so far have been spent unpacking, cleaning, cleaning more (four kids can make an awfully big mess during a very short time), and eating an inordinant amount of wonderful food. And most of the time I'm enjoying it. Every once in a while, like last night, the pangs of knowing few people will hit, and I will greatly miss our life in Idaho. Facebook is a great way to stay connected, but also a reminder of the friends that I miss so much.
Church has been very helpful. We are attending a Nazarene church in our town, and really like it. They are trying to meet the challenges that our boys represent in Sunday School...I'm hoping that a more comprehensive meeting will be able to happen once we've been there awhile so that the boys don't end up relegated to the preschool room the whole time. But the church has been extremely welcoming.
If you think of it, and would like to pray specifically for our family, here are some current requests:
1) Financial provision for our boys to be able to attend the school God called us down here for.
2) FRIENDS. Kadee Joy especially is feeling the lack of friends around here. She's becoming pretty persistent with a neighbor girl she met next door, to the point where I think they might be pretending not to be home. :) She's just like her daddy in the need for social interaction. Chris and I would also like some good friends to hang out with, but Kadee Joy is first on the list right now.
3) The sale of our house and car. It is INCREDIBLE to me that we have an offer on our house, and so far it is going smoothly. I thank God for this possibility of sold house, and continue to pray that it will be a blessing to the people buying it. We also have a car still up in Nampa trying to be sold by our friend Jeff. It hasn't been a problem to have one vehicle so far, but once the school year starts up, we'll definitely need two.
4) A job/direction for Chris. He has been praying so much for God's leading in knowing what to do. He applied and interviewed a month ago at a private Christian school here in town, but still has yet to hear back about whether or not he got the job. It's wonderful to see his trusting in God, and praying so often for discernment and direction.
We have so many things to be thankful for.
WE ARE HERE. We started the process in January, and I had NO idea how we would get here. It seemed impossible. I didn't know how we would get jobs, afford to get down here, how we would get our house ready to sell, etc. God has orchestrated everything. Praise be to Him, and Him alone. There is NOTHING God will call us to that He will not aid us in.
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Not my plan.
So my last post summed up my surrender to God's plan, regardless of how comfortable (or, more accurately, UNcomfortable) it made me.
God has been doing CRAZY things in our lives since then.
I turned in my resignation immediately after posting the last blog.
Things stayed as they were for a few weeks. I got more and more frantic as the weeks went on. We tried to start looking for housing, but to no avail since we had no jobs. We had no idea how we were going to get down to San Antonio.
Then during the week of May 30, I got a call from a school in Seguin, TX (about 30 minutes outside of San Antonio) asking if I would come and do an interview. I was ELATED about the prospect of a job. We had already started arranging a trip down to San Antonio for Chris to try and find housing, and so we just added me to the trip, and my interview was scheduled for three weeks later.
On May 31, we got an offer on our house. It was lower than the bank said we could go, so we countered. They accepted the counteroffer, and again, I was ELATED.
However, we didn't get a paper copy back of the signed counteroffer. The next day, they called and said they needed more time to think about it, and held onto their signed counteroffer. Three days passed, and at the end of the three days they decided to back out of the deal. I was pretty crestfallen, but it sounded like the main reason they decided to pull out was because it was causing some conflict within the family. I knew that it would be better for them to pull out early than to have possibly years of conflict over this one purchase. We have had no offers since, and it is still on the market.
Chris and I flew down a few weeks later. Chris had a job interview at a Christian School in New Braunfels (the town we have felt led to actually live in), and I had my job interview in Seguin. Chris got a second interview, and I got a job offer, which I joyfully accepted. We still haven't heard about Chris' job.
So we used the rest of the trip to find a place to live, which was much easier now that I had a solid job offer. We found a place in a manufactured home community that was within our income and applied to rent it. We flew home, found out that our application was accepted, signed the lease, and began to plan for our move.
We emptied our house, selling much of the furniture inside of it, packed the Penske moving truck we rented, and headed out just this last Saturday. We spent the first night in Filer, ID with my dear friend who is a pastor there, and then led worship outdoors at the fairgrounds for their community. It was a tearful goodbye with our dear friends there, and then we were off. We drove and drove, stopping for the night in Las Vegas, Phoenix, and Fort Stockton, TX.
We had gotten into Fort Stockton at nearly one in the morning. We were exhausted and all of us fell asleep as soon as we hit the pillows. We slept in until almost nine that morning. I was the first one up and showered quickly, trying to make up for the time we had spent sleeping in. While the rest of the family was getting ready, my cell phone rang. It was from area code 210. I was puzzled at first, but then remembered the 210 was San Antonio. I answered, but got no response. I assumed it had been a misplaced call. A minute later, my phone range again from the same number.
When I answered it this time, a man introduced himself as the principal from a school in an area of San Antonio called Alamo Heights. I knew the area well. It's where our boys' school is. My heart sank as I realized what he was probably calling about. He met my expectations when he asked if I was still looking for a music teaching position as one had just recently opened in their district. I told him quite mournfully that I had already accepted a position at another school district, and he wished me good luck. I hung up the phone and started moaning and groaning. No really...I, a 32 year old mother of four, started audibly moaning and groaning. And then screaming. I did NOT understand why this particular principal from this particular school would have called AFTER I'd been down in the area to do another interview and had already accepted the job.
Here's why I was acting the way I was: At this point, we had NO idea of how we were going to transport the boys to their school, assuming we could afford to get them there. This particular location brought them in the exact area that the school was.
Chris told me not to worry about it, Kadee Joy told me "stop freaking her out", and so I sensibly stopped. For about 30 seconds. Then I called my mom.
She counseled me to call the principal back, explain the situation honestly, and see what he said. After freaking out another minute, I did as she advised. The principal was very friendly and told me he thought it would be great for me to interview, since Texas law didn't hold me to any contract until July 13th. Apparently the job had JUST opened up because the gal who had taught before had major family changes happening and had to move to a different part of Texas to be able to take care of them. So we scheduled an interview for 9:00 am the next day. Which was this morning.
We got into New Braunfels last night, unloaded our moving truck with the help of family and a kind youth group from our prospective church, and unpacked a little bit. I ran to Ross to try and find something that would work for an interview, which luckily I was able to. I got my outfit ready, set my alarm, got VERY little sleep, and then woke up, got ready, and drove to Alamo Heights.
The neighborhood in surrounding the school is RIDICULOUS. It's filled with beautiful, terribly expensive older homes, and lots of beautiful trees and landscaping. That's what sets Alamo Heights apart from the other parts of San Antonio. We had found it the same way when we'd visited the boys school in March. I drove into the school parking lot and went it. I was a little early, so after about ten minutes of waiting, the principal who had called me called my name, introduced himself in person, and then took me into the office to be interviewed. Both he and the principal of the school of the position I was interview for were there.
It was the longest interview I've ever had, and was very interesting. I was impressed by the importance they placed on the arts, the diversity of the students, the care in which they took to show respect and high expectations to their students, and felt also that the job was COMPLETELY out of my league. Overall, though, I thought it went okay, and they told me that I would probably know by next Tuesday if I'd gotten the position. They were going to contact my references after I gave them updated information, which I did as soon as I got home. Then I contacted my references as well to let them know that, despite the fact that I already had another job, they would be receiving calls from another school district.
I was pretty exhausted, so after some lunch and more unpacking, I laid down to take a nap. Chris woke me up, and let me know that the principal was on the phone. I was a little shocked, as I had been told it would take much longer to know anything. I answered, and she told me that my references had confirmed what she had gathered from my interview, and that she very much wanted to hire me for the position.
I was a little dumbfounded, but accepted immediately. And here's why:
God's plans and timing are always better than mine. I do not believe it was a coincidence that I was offered a job in one school district that enabled me to secure a house, which enabled us to secure the date to move down, which then put us in San Antonio THE DAY before a job interview for a job that had not existed until the very day I was contacted in Fort Stockton, which HAPPENED to be in a school TWO MILES away from the school that God specifically called me to bring my boys to. It is literally the closest public elementary school to my boys' school. It also pays enough to cover the cost in gas it would take to get them there on a daily basis.
It is a job that I simply will not be able to do on my own, and I don't expect to be able to. Because I serve a big God who has my back, and has not abandoned me yet, and has walked alongside me as I attempt to be obedient to what he has called me to do.
I called the principal from Seguin, and she graciously told me that of course I needed to do what was best for my family, and wished me luck. I am grateful for her, and her part in bringing us here.
6 months ago, we started the process, and God has been so incredibly faithful to bring me to where I am today. I praise Him for His provision, and his perfect plan. And I pray for the strength to do what He is asking me to do each day.
God has been doing CRAZY things in our lives since then.
I turned in my resignation immediately after posting the last blog.
Things stayed as they were for a few weeks. I got more and more frantic as the weeks went on. We tried to start looking for housing, but to no avail since we had no jobs. We had no idea how we were going to get down to San Antonio.
Then during the week of May 30, I got a call from a school in Seguin, TX (about 30 minutes outside of San Antonio) asking if I would come and do an interview. I was ELATED about the prospect of a job. We had already started arranging a trip down to San Antonio for Chris to try and find housing, and so we just added me to the trip, and my interview was scheduled for three weeks later.
On May 31, we got an offer on our house. It was lower than the bank said we could go, so we countered. They accepted the counteroffer, and again, I was ELATED.
However, we didn't get a paper copy back of the signed counteroffer. The next day, they called and said they needed more time to think about it, and held onto their signed counteroffer. Three days passed, and at the end of the three days they decided to back out of the deal. I was pretty crestfallen, but it sounded like the main reason they decided to pull out was because it was causing some conflict within the family. I knew that it would be better for them to pull out early than to have possibly years of conflict over this one purchase. We have had no offers since, and it is still on the market.
Chris and I flew down a few weeks later. Chris had a job interview at a Christian School in New Braunfels (the town we have felt led to actually live in), and I had my job interview in Seguin. Chris got a second interview, and I got a job offer, which I joyfully accepted. We still haven't heard about Chris' job.
So we used the rest of the trip to find a place to live, which was much easier now that I had a solid job offer. We found a place in a manufactured home community that was within our income and applied to rent it. We flew home, found out that our application was accepted, signed the lease, and began to plan for our move.
We emptied our house, selling much of the furniture inside of it, packed the Penske moving truck we rented, and headed out just this last Saturday. We spent the first night in Filer, ID with my dear friend who is a pastor there, and then led worship outdoors at the fairgrounds for their community. It was a tearful goodbye with our dear friends there, and then we were off. We drove and drove, stopping for the night in Las Vegas, Phoenix, and Fort Stockton, TX.
We had gotten into Fort Stockton at nearly one in the morning. We were exhausted and all of us fell asleep as soon as we hit the pillows. We slept in until almost nine that morning. I was the first one up and showered quickly, trying to make up for the time we had spent sleeping in. While the rest of the family was getting ready, my cell phone rang. It was from area code 210. I was puzzled at first, but then remembered the 210 was San Antonio. I answered, but got no response. I assumed it had been a misplaced call. A minute later, my phone range again from the same number.
When I answered it this time, a man introduced himself as the principal from a school in an area of San Antonio called Alamo Heights. I knew the area well. It's where our boys' school is. My heart sank as I realized what he was probably calling about. He met my expectations when he asked if I was still looking for a music teaching position as one had just recently opened in their district. I told him quite mournfully that I had already accepted a position at another school district, and he wished me good luck. I hung up the phone and started moaning and groaning. No really...I, a 32 year old mother of four, started audibly moaning and groaning. And then screaming. I did NOT understand why this particular principal from this particular school would have called AFTER I'd been down in the area to do another interview and had already accepted the job.
Here's why I was acting the way I was: At this point, we had NO idea of how we were going to transport the boys to their school, assuming we could afford to get them there. This particular location brought them in the exact area that the school was.
Chris told me not to worry about it, Kadee Joy told me "stop freaking her out", and so I sensibly stopped. For about 30 seconds. Then I called my mom.
She counseled me to call the principal back, explain the situation honestly, and see what he said. After freaking out another minute, I did as she advised. The principal was very friendly and told me he thought it would be great for me to interview, since Texas law didn't hold me to any contract until July 13th. Apparently the job had JUST opened up because the gal who had taught before had major family changes happening and had to move to a different part of Texas to be able to take care of them. So we scheduled an interview for 9:00 am the next day. Which was this morning.
We got into New Braunfels last night, unloaded our moving truck with the help of family and a kind youth group from our prospective church, and unpacked a little bit. I ran to Ross to try and find something that would work for an interview, which luckily I was able to. I got my outfit ready, set my alarm, got VERY little sleep, and then woke up, got ready, and drove to Alamo Heights.
The neighborhood in surrounding the school is RIDICULOUS. It's filled with beautiful, terribly expensive older homes, and lots of beautiful trees and landscaping. That's what sets Alamo Heights apart from the other parts of San Antonio. We had found it the same way when we'd visited the boys school in March. I drove into the school parking lot and went it. I was a little early, so after about ten minutes of waiting, the principal who had called me called my name, introduced himself in person, and then took me into the office to be interviewed. Both he and the principal of the school of the position I was interview for were there.
It was the longest interview I've ever had, and was very interesting. I was impressed by the importance they placed on the arts, the diversity of the students, the care in which they took to show respect and high expectations to their students, and felt also that the job was COMPLETELY out of my league. Overall, though, I thought it went okay, and they told me that I would probably know by next Tuesday if I'd gotten the position. They were going to contact my references after I gave them updated information, which I did as soon as I got home. Then I contacted my references as well to let them know that, despite the fact that I already had another job, they would be receiving calls from another school district.
I was pretty exhausted, so after some lunch and more unpacking, I laid down to take a nap. Chris woke me up, and let me know that the principal was on the phone. I was a little shocked, as I had been told it would take much longer to know anything. I answered, and she told me that my references had confirmed what she had gathered from my interview, and that she very much wanted to hire me for the position.
I was a little dumbfounded, but accepted immediately. And here's why:
God's plans and timing are always better than mine. I do not believe it was a coincidence that I was offered a job in one school district that enabled me to secure a house, which enabled us to secure the date to move down, which then put us in San Antonio THE DAY before a job interview for a job that had not existed until the very day I was contacted in Fort Stockton, which HAPPENED to be in a school TWO MILES away from the school that God specifically called me to bring my boys to. It is literally the closest public elementary school to my boys' school. It also pays enough to cover the cost in gas it would take to get them there on a daily basis.
It is a job that I simply will not be able to do on my own, and I don't expect to be able to. Because I serve a big God who has my back, and has not abandoned me yet, and has walked alongside me as I attempt to be obedient to what he has called me to do.
I called the principal from Seguin, and she graciously told me that of course I needed to do what was best for my family, and wished me luck. I am grateful for her, and her part in bringing us here.
6 months ago, we started the process, and God has been so incredibly faithful to bring me to where I am today. I praise Him for His provision, and his perfect plan. And I pray for the strength to do what He is asking me to do each day.
Saturday, May 5, 2012
Not by sight
I like safety nets.
But I've been realizing more and more each day that God just might have the audacity to ask us to move down to San Antonio without jobs. Without a sold house.
Without a safety net.
Chris resigned both of his jobs two months ago. He is moving on faith, not sight.
I have talked with my administrator, but not resigned. I wanted a backup plan. I wanted to know that if somehow things "didn't work out" I would still have the job I love and the necessary income that comes with it. I wanted to be smart about this impending change. I wanted to do things in the right order. I have been living in the intent of faithfulness, rather than in the finality of acting in faith.
I think God's calling us to do things pretty backwards. Move before the assurance of a sold house, jobs, and the financial means to live after August. Or at least, backwards in American terms. Not so backwards biblically.
Abraham had no backup plan when he left Ur for the promised land.
Joseph had no backup plan when he found himself in Egypt.
Moses and the Israelites had no backup plan when they left Egypt.
Ruth had no backup plan when she left her home to go with Naomi.
David had no backup plan when he was anointed king while Saul still was king.
Mary had no backup plan when she found herself pregnant with God's son.
Jesus had no backup plan while he was spilling out his life on the cross.
God called them to all of these things, they obeyed, and then He provided. Although, His provision was not always what they thought it would be. And His provision thus far has not been what I thought it would be either. But He HAS provided.
On Monday, I'll be turning in my letter of resignation.
Lord, walk with us! Your plans are always better than mine.
"In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? It says,
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,
and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,
because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.”
Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline —then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. “Make level paths for your feet,” so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed."
-Hebrews 12:4-12
But I've been realizing more and more each day that God just might have the audacity to ask us to move down to San Antonio without jobs. Without a sold house.
Without a safety net.
Chris resigned both of his jobs two months ago. He is moving on faith, not sight.
I have talked with my administrator, but not resigned. I wanted a backup plan. I wanted to know that if somehow things "didn't work out" I would still have the job I love and the necessary income that comes with it. I wanted to be smart about this impending change. I wanted to do things in the right order. I have been living in the intent of faithfulness, rather than in the finality of acting in faith.
I think God's calling us to do things pretty backwards. Move before the assurance of a sold house, jobs, and the financial means to live after August. Or at least, backwards in American terms. Not so backwards biblically.
Abraham had no backup plan when he left Ur for the promised land.
Joseph had no backup plan when he found himself in Egypt.
Moses and the Israelites had no backup plan when they left Egypt.
Ruth had no backup plan when she left her home to go with Naomi.
David had no backup plan when he was anointed king while Saul still was king.
Mary had no backup plan when she found herself pregnant with God's son.
Jesus had no backup plan while he was spilling out his life on the cross.
God called them to all of these things, they obeyed, and then He provided. Although, His provision was not always what they thought it would be. And His provision thus far has not been what I thought it would be either. But He HAS provided.
On Monday, I'll be turning in my letter of resignation.
Lord, walk with us! Your plans are always better than mine.
"In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? It says,
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,
and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,
because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.”
Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline —then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. “Make level paths for your feet,” so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed."
-Hebrews 12:4-12
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Waiting
"We're in a holding pattern."
That's what I keep saying to people who ask me how things are going in the process of us moving to San Antonio, where God has called us to relocate in order to find more help for our boys.
Here's what we HAVE done:
1) We've found the place where our boys are to go.
2) Put our house on the market. We've quite a few people look at it. We've had to make sure that it is clean every single day before we leave. That's quite the feat with four children ages 7 and under.
3) We've gotten boxes. We've packed a few.
4) We've applied for jobs. I've applied for three in the Comal ISD, and Chris has been in ongoing conversations with a Nazarene church, both of which (the school district) are in a lovely town outside of San Antonio called New Braunfels.
5) We've prayed. And prayed, and prayed, and prayed, and prayed some more.
6) We've had others pray for us. We are literally immersed in prayer.
And here's what we still need:
1) The money to actually send our boys to the facility we found.
2) For our house to sell and for the bank to accept an offer when we get it. Our house is massively under water. It also is very apparent that we have four kids.
3) To get ride of LOTS OF STUFF and to have the money to actually move what stuff we still need down to San Antonio.
4) To actually get jobs. So that we can actually afford somewhere to live when we get there.
5) To pray. And pray, and pray, and pray, and pray some more.
6) For you to pray for us. Please, please, please...continue to immerse us in your prayers.
"I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth."
Psalm 121:1-2
That's what I keep saying to people who ask me how things are going in the process of us moving to San Antonio, where God has called us to relocate in order to find more help for our boys.
Here's what we HAVE done:
1) We've found the place where our boys are to go.
2) Put our house on the market. We've quite a few people look at it. We've had to make sure that it is clean every single day before we leave. That's quite the feat with four children ages 7 and under.
3) We've gotten boxes. We've packed a few.
4) We've applied for jobs. I've applied for three in the Comal ISD, and Chris has been in ongoing conversations with a Nazarene church, both of which (the school district) are in a lovely town outside of San Antonio called New Braunfels.
5) We've prayed. And prayed, and prayed, and prayed, and prayed some more.
6) We've had others pray for us. We are literally immersed in prayer.
And here's what we still need:
1) The money to actually send our boys to the facility we found.
2) For our house to sell and for the bank to accept an offer when we get it. Our house is massively under water. It also is very apparent that we have four kids.
3) To get ride of LOTS OF STUFF and to have the money to actually move what stuff we still need down to San Antonio.
4) To actually get jobs. So that we can actually afford somewhere to live when we get there.
5) To pray. And pray, and pray, and pray, and pray some more.
6) For you to pray for us. Please, please, please...continue to immerse us in your prayers.
"I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth."
Psalm 121:1-2
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Found it!
We traveled down to San Antonio to check out the area's autism centers to see if we could find the one that God told me about.
And we found it.
It is WONDERFUL and would be a WONDERFUL place for our boys.
And it is $3000 PER MONTHfor both boys to attend.
That's where we're waiting for God to step in.
God...you've called us there. Please show us your miraculous provision.
And we found it.
It is WONDERFUL and would be a WONDERFUL place for our boys.
And it is $3000 PER MONTHfor both boys to attend.
That's where we're waiting for God to step in.
God...you've called us there. Please show us your miraculous provision.
Sunday, March 11, 2012
For Sale
In January of 2011, right around Chris' birthday, I started being unable to sleep. Anybody who has ever experienced this knows that one night without sleep is bad enough. I had seven. Seven straight nights of not more than an hour at a time of sleep. I tried all the usual remedies: no caffeine, allergy medication, benadryl, melatonin, etc. Nothing worked. I've experienced this kind of sleeplessness before, but it was in the middle of a crisis. This was not.
Finally, on the seventh night, around 2 am, I went out onto the couch and just laid down. Sleep did not come to me, but a thought did. I remembered in the book of Samuel how God had come to the boy Samuel in the middle of the night, and he mistaken his interrupted sleep for his mentor Eli calling him. It was only after several mistaken attempts to answer Eli that his mentor realized that Samuel was probably hearing from God, and told him to say, "Speak, for your servant is listening."
So I quieted my heart and mind as best I could and said (out loud), "God...I'm here if you want something."
And God answered, "Move to Texas."
I was a little startled by this, but had the presence of mind to answer, "Where?"
And God answered, "San Antonio."
And I asked, "Why?"
And God said, "There is an autism research center there."
Both of my boys, as most of you know, were diagnosed with autism when they reached the age of two. Many of my experiences here with my boys have been wonderful. My church, their preschool, our friends and family have all been so good, kind, loving, and understanding of our boys.
But one thing that has grown in my mind more and more, though, is how limited the resources here are. It has taken what feels like an eternity to get them even the most basic of services. It's not that the providers around here don't want to help our boys...there just aren't enough of them for the number of children with special needs who live here.
So the next morning, I Googled "Autism center San Antonio." And a funny thing happened...there are a lot of them. Some in San Antonio, some close to San Antonio, but they are there.
So I went into our bathroom where Chris was getting ready for the day and nonchalantly informed him that God had told me that we were to move to Texas. I will leave it to your imagination as to how Chris responded when I was the one to tell him that.
The next night, I inquired of the Lord, "When are we supposed to go?" And He answered, "After the baby is born."
This was in January. I was NOT pregnant.
But in April I found out that I was. And in December, after a difficult pregnancy and delivery, our beautiful baby boy was born.
Two days after God's initially speaking to me, we went to church, and wouldn't you know it, the topic for our pastor's sermon was "What to do when God speaks to you." Not even joking. It was based on the scripture in Habakkuk where God instructs Habakkuk to write down his revelation. So that night, I wrote down exactly what God said to me, and have gone back to what I wrote many times over the past 14 months.
The year between God talking to me and Luke being born was not an easy one in the sense of me just being willing to do what He was asking of me. I wrestled with God many, many, many times. I felt that we were too invested in our church, and they were too invested in us. I love my job, and didn't see how I could possibly leave it. I didn't want to uproot my kids into the unknown. I didn't know how it would be financially possible for us to sell our house and to move with all the unknowns. We didn't have jobs down there, or even leads on jobs. I don't know the school systems. And I didn't know WHICH autism center we were supposed to go to.
But God has been patient with me, and about six weeks after the baby was born, we were directed to a realtor, and we told him our story. He walked us through what we would need to do in order to sell our house (which is WAY under water), and so we got to work. It seems that that was all it took to get the ball rolling, because after that I started looking into getting teaching credentials for the state of Texas, talking with my administrator and other friends, and looking more in depth at the autism centers.
During the last few weeks we have told our church, much of our close family and friends, and a few colleagues at school what God spoke to me over a year ago. Chris' dad is flying us down to San Antonio to visit the autism centers in the area. We have gone through the arduous process of getting our house ready to sell, and we now have a sign in our yard and will officially put it on the market tomorrow morning. We still have no jobs and no real way of moving down there...but prepare to move down there we will do nonetheless. Chris put his letter of resignation into our church, and we will be done in an official capacity in June. In a last ditch effort to find our boys help here, I applied for them to come to my school because we have an autism program at my school (a very rare thing)...and they were denied because we live out of district. Another door to stay here closed.
So there we are. We know our overall end, and we know why we're going. We know what we are supposed to do TODAY, but that's about it. We hope that you will pray for us as we very much walk in faith that God has called us into His plan...and we already know that His plans are always far better than ours. We are grateful for His love for us and for our boys, and are excited to see how God will equip them for the calling He has placed on there lives in our moving down to a place where they can receive the help that they need. I would be lying if I said I wanted to leave...but I very much want to be in God's will...His good, pleasing, and perfect will.
Finally, on the seventh night, around 2 am, I went out onto the couch and just laid down. Sleep did not come to me, but a thought did. I remembered in the book of Samuel how God had come to the boy Samuel in the middle of the night, and he mistaken his interrupted sleep for his mentor Eli calling him. It was only after several mistaken attempts to answer Eli that his mentor realized that Samuel was probably hearing from God, and told him to say, "Speak, for your servant is listening."
So I quieted my heart and mind as best I could and said (out loud), "God...I'm here if you want something."
And God answered, "Move to Texas."
I was a little startled by this, but had the presence of mind to answer, "Where?"
And God answered, "San Antonio."
And I asked, "Why?"
And God said, "There is an autism research center there."
Both of my boys, as most of you know, were diagnosed with autism when they reached the age of two. Many of my experiences here with my boys have been wonderful. My church, their preschool, our friends and family have all been so good, kind, loving, and understanding of our boys.
But one thing that has grown in my mind more and more, though, is how limited the resources here are. It has taken what feels like an eternity to get them even the most basic of services. It's not that the providers around here don't want to help our boys...there just aren't enough of them for the number of children with special needs who live here.
So the next morning, I Googled "Autism center San Antonio." And a funny thing happened...there are a lot of them. Some in San Antonio, some close to San Antonio, but they are there.
So I went into our bathroom where Chris was getting ready for the day and nonchalantly informed him that God had told me that we were to move to Texas. I will leave it to your imagination as to how Chris responded when I was the one to tell him that.
The next night, I inquired of the Lord, "When are we supposed to go?" And He answered, "After the baby is born."
This was in January. I was NOT pregnant.
But in April I found out that I was. And in December, after a difficult pregnancy and delivery, our beautiful baby boy was born.
Two days after God's initially speaking to me, we went to church, and wouldn't you know it, the topic for our pastor's sermon was "What to do when God speaks to you." Not even joking. It was based on the scripture in Habakkuk where God instructs Habakkuk to write down his revelation. So that night, I wrote down exactly what God said to me, and have gone back to what I wrote many times over the past 14 months.
The year between God talking to me and Luke being born was not an easy one in the sense of me just being willing to do what He was asking of me. I wrestled with God many, many, many times. I felt that we were too invested in our church, and they were too invested in us. I love my job, and didn't see how I could possibly leave it. I didn't want to uproot my kids into the unknown. I didn't know how it would be financially possible for us to sell our house and to move with all the unknowns. We didn't have jobs down there, or even leads on jobs. I don't know the school systems. And I didn't know WHICH autism center we were supposed to go to.
But God has been patient with me, and about six weeks after the baby was born, we were directed to a realtor, and we told him our story. He walked us through what we would need to do in order to sell our house (which is WAY under water), and so we got to work. It seems that that was all it took to get the ball rolling, because after that I started looking into getting teaching credentials for the state of Texas, talking with my administrator and other friends, and looking more in depth at the autism centers.
During the last few weeks we have told our church, much of our close family and friends, and a few colleagues at school what God spoke to me over a year ago. Chris' dad is flying us down to San Antonio to visit the autism centers in the area. We have gone through the arduous process of getting our house ready to sell, and we now have a sign in our yard and will officially put it on the market tomorrow morning. We still have no jobs and no real way of moving down there...but prepare to move down there we will do nonetheless. Chris put his letter of resignation into our church, and we will be done in an official capacity in June. In a last ditch effort to find our boys help here, I applied for them to come to my school because we have an autism program at my school (a very rare thing)...and they were denied because we live out of district. Another door to stay here closed.
So there we are. We know our overall end, and we know why we're going. We know what we are supposed to do TODAY, but that's about it. We hope that you will pray for us as we very much walk in faith that God has called us into His plan...and we already know that His plans are always far better than ours. We are grateful for His love for us and for our boys, and are excited to see how God will equip them for the calling He has placed on there lives in our moving down to a place where they can receive the help that they need. I would be lying if I said I wanted to leave...but I very much want to be in God's will...His good, pleasing, and perfect will.
Saturday, January 14, 2012
New Addition
Obviously, baby Luke was added to our family. He'll be one month old tomorrow. His coming into the world was not without fear, not only because bed rest was riddled with multiple trips to the hospital to stop preterm labor but also because my placenta abrupted during delivery and his umbilical cord was tied in what could have been a life-ending knot. I am grateful for his life, and for God's lessons in the times of fear that have made me a less complaining mother during the usual sleepless nights that newborns bring. I will take them willingly knowing that there was no guarantee that I would have this time with him, and that he could have been taken at any moment leading up to his birth. He is quite bald, having not only little hair on his head but also no eyebrows and sparse eyelashes. He is quite the little old man, and we're so happy that he is here.
I haven't been to work in nearly three months. It will be a longer period of time than any summer break I have ever had. In that time I have had the opportunity to appreciate both the time with my own kids (limited as my physical interaction with them was) and also to reflect on how fortunate I am to work with the students and staff that I have back at Iowa. God is very good to have placed me there. I am praying that I will be a source of encouragement and help to those that I work with.
Our little family seems to be adjusting well to the addition of child number four. Quite honestly, it doesn't seem nearly as hard as having our first child. I don't know that he's necessarily an easier baby...I think that God has simply been able to use our experiences, both positive and negative, to help us prepare for Luke's joining us more easily.
Kadee Joy is such a wonderful big sister. She has always shown a great propensity for patience with her other brothers, and extends it now to her new youngest. Andrew is quite taken with Luke, and if he hears him cry says, "It's okay, Baby Wooke." He also will try to give him his pacifier, which is always accompanied by "Here you go, kid. Here you go, kid." Then he pets Luke's bald head and gives him a big kiss. Jeffrey is neither taken with nor bothered by Luke. He often has to be reminded that the baby is there at all...otherwise I think Luke would be a stepping stone more often.
And Chris is...well Chris is just wonderful. He has often taken the late night or early morning shift when the baby is just wide awake for no apparent reason. He gives me nap breaks when I need them, and still takes care of most of our meals. He manages to find me beautiful even when showers have evaded me and pajamas are my default outfit. What a wonderful place to be in, and how grateful I am to the Lord for bringing us to this sweet place in life.
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